Before I had the language for it, I was already studying human signals.

I didn’t start out as confident - I started out as observant. As a shy child, I learned that the safest way to navigate people was to watch them closely: how they moved, who spoke and who stayed silent, who led and who was overlooked, and how others reacted in real time. I noticed patterns long before I had words for them, sensing the unspoken signals shaping the way people were perceived without fully understanding why. Long before body language became a buzzword, I was studying the signals people give - out of necessity.

I began to recognize the quiet mechanics of influence: how subtle signals shaped attraction, relationships, and influence long before words were spoken. I saw why some people commanded attention without raising their voice while others were overlooked even when they spoke. That early curiosity eventually became decades of formal study in human behavior and non-verbal communication, alongside coaching leaders and clients for over 30 years.

Years later, in the corporate world, I watched the same dynamics play out at scale. The people with the most power didn’t chase attention, they signaled it. They moved differently. Spoke differently. Paused differently. Those patterns confirmed what I had sensed all along: influence is rarely about force; it’s about the signals we send - whether in leadership, attraction or everyday human connection.

What I learned changed everything - Change your signals, Change your life. And I’ll show you how.